1. Always trust your intuition. While there is nothing wrong with seeking advice and guidance from others, keep in mind that everyone is simply sharing/speaking through the lens of their own experiences and it may not necessarily be the right advice for you. Your intuition, once sharpened and trusted, will provide you with everything you need to know.
2. Follow your heart. It may not seem logical or rational, it may go against what others say (see #1), but your heart knows the way. It was most likely be confirmed by your intuition. The trick is to silence the trickster mind!
3. The mind can be changed and new neural pathways can be formed. We can use the power of the mind to create our ideal life. Once we understand several aspects of the mind, we can easily and quickly turn our thoughts around, giving us a new perspective and a new life.
4. The universe is actually on our side. We are a magnet (through our thoughts!) and can manifest anything we want.
5. The universe is abundant and this abundance is limitless. Therefore, we are limitless because we are of the universe. We are co-creators of our own life and once we can harness the power of the energy of the universe, we can have an abundant life in all aspects.
6. Everything always works out. It just does. And more often than not, it ends up even better than we imagined (the imagination is a powerful tool, too!).
7. Trust. As simple as that. The universe has our back.
8. We all have healing to do and healing comes in layers. It’s so important to feel things because this is how we uncover/unearth and dig deeper into our layers. Better out than in!
9. Acknowledge feelings. Don’t be ashamed of feeling the feelings you feel. They are there and they need to be witnessed. Once they are witnessed, they are released. Emotions are energy in motion. They need an outlet. Find healthy ways to express yourself and you will find freedom.
10. Once you heal the relationship to self, everything else falls into place: nutrition, exercise, making healthy life choices overall.
11. Our human connections are so important. We need people. We are inherently imperfect and those around us can help us to achieve great things. It’s absolutely okay to acknowledge that, accept your strengths, and admit where you’re not so strong. Partnerships are balancing and can help you to soar high.
12. It’s important to learn how to say “no.” Becoming authentic in your life means that not everything is going to align for you, align for your path, and that is completely okay. There will be those who will not understand and will be upset with your decision, but it’s not up to you to please everyone and make others happy. Be aware of what you are saying yes to, because you may then be saying no to yourself. Stick with what aligns for you and your goals. Not everything that glitters is gold and not every opportunity is one that needs to be taken. Those that anger because you say yes to yourself are those that were benefiting from your lack of boundaries. Boundaries are necessary if you are to succeed.
13. Success is different for everyone. It’s not always about money!
14. While being exhausted and busy are overly glorified in today’s society, it doesn’t make it right. Having down time, time to find stillness and quiet, time for fun, are all essential for overall health and wellness. It also helps with productivity! So in order to maintain your productivity, taking time for self is the key.
15. And finally, very little actually has to do with us. “What others say and do is a reflection of them, not of you” is one of my favorite quotes that I repeat to myself often. We are all students of life with a whole closet-ful of experiences, traumas, pain, grief, etc. So often, those are the lenses through which others are viewing the world with. We do not have to take much personally because more often than not, how people express themselves in an outward way is a direct reflection of what is occurring beneath the surface. So try to use this to find compassion for others when someone is being particularly unfavorable or mean. While we do not have to accept certain behaviors, we can at least find understanding and remove ourselves gracefully from the situation.
With these lessons came struggles, challenges, emotions, and finally, acceptance. I’ve also learned that when we fight against the direction life is taking us, we suffer. If we want to let go of the suffering, we must find acceptance for what is and then embrace the unfamiliar/new. As Marisa Peer states, anything unfamiliar can become familiar. We just need to allow it to be and trust that the new direction is there for our highest good.